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megan lloyd's avatar

As the mother of an 18-year-old transgender woman, I have witnessed a marked and deeply distressing shift in attitudes towards the trans community since she came out to me five years ago.

She was just 16 when the puberty blockers ban was introduced. I remember that day vividly — I broke down in tears, overwhelmed and exhausted from what felt like a relentless fight. At times, I found myself wishing her life away, willing the days to pass so she could reach 18 and finally access the medication she needed. No parent should ever feel forced into hoping their child grows up faster simply to receive appropriate healthcare.

As a parent, my role is to advocate for my children and protect their wellbeing. The ongoing hostility directed at the trans community feels deeply personal, because it directly affects my daughter’s safety, dignity and future.

Being transgender is not a choice; it is an inherent part of who someone is. It deserves understanding, compassion and respect. Personal opinions, political agendas or ideological beliefs should never override the relationship between a clinician and their patient, nor interfere with evidence-based medical care.

Paige Fulmer's avatar

Dr Webberly, I have learned so much from you and I am so grateful you do this work. I am not trans, and I don't have many trans people in my life, but I know from coming out as a lesbian in the 90's how important it is to be believed. I didn't care if the world understood me, I just wanted them to believe me. The hatred for trans people on the Internet sometimes takes my breath away, but the dismissal of someone's reality disguised as care is almost more upsetting. It's "I know what's best for you" because "you aren't what you say you are," and worse, "what you say you are doesn't exist." I'll always remember the first person who believed me. I can imagine what seeing your content would do for a young trans person. Your knowledge and voice is so needed at this time.

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