by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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Trans women face vastly more media, policy, and public scrutiny in sport than trans men do, and the gap exposes the real logic at work. If the concern were genuinely about…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Yes. Young people can consent to gender-affirming care in the same way they consent to any other medical treatment, by showing they understand what it will do, what happens if…
Margaret was a grandfather of sixty-three, sitting in a kitchen at two in the morning with the screen brightness turned down, when she finally pressed the checkout button on her…

The claim that cis women need protection from trans women is not supported by evidence. Trans women and girls are statistically far more likely to be victims of violence, abuse,…
A mother in India wrote to Helen about her trans daughter and the man in their home who frightened them both. What followed was a conversation about what it really means to keep…

There is no prescribed path once you decide to transition. Some people go in tiny steps and others change everything at once, depending on family, money and access to care. Social…
Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Maya spent the whole summer rehearsing a two-minute conversation with her headteacher, then burst out laughing halfway through because her hands would not stop shaking.

When trans people don't fit the system, they carry the cost: mismatched documents, forms with no right box, care pathways built for one kind of story, and waits that run for…
A young person goes to their paediatrician hoping finally to be understood, and leaves with their identity questioned and their care delayed.
Diane had known since the eighties, buried it through addiction and a rebuilt life, and then told her wife the truth over dinner on a Tuesday, and everything shifted.
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