by Helen and Sammy
Nothing is off the cards.
One question a week, answered by the people it is actually about.
Thank you. I am keeping the answers to myself until Monday morning, so that nobody's vote nudges anybody else's. Come back then and I will show you the whole picture.
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Detransition means returning to living in the gender assigned at birth, but the reasons are varied and often misrepresented. Some people detransition because of social pressure,…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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A testosterone puberty reshapes the face, growing the brow ridge, nose, jaw angles and chin, and forming an Adam's apple in the neck. Oestrogen softens skin and moves fat into the…
He grew up in 1970s Britain reading C.S. Lewis by torchlight and longing to be one of the brothers, not the girl they all thought he was, and it would take four decades, two…

A young wheelchair user and their carer find that gender services and disability services each act as if the other does not exist, until one small act of recognition changes…

Trans people can and do have biological children, though the routes vary considerably depending on timing and what medical steps have been taken. Sperm can be stored before…
The claim that cis women need protection from trans women is not supported by evidence. Trans women and girls are statistically far more likely to be victims of violence, abuse,…
Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →Darya's father said the wrong thing first, but chose his daughter over his certainty and became the man she needed him to be.

Society makes room for small groups all the time, through step-free access, braille and sign language, because everybody matters whatever the numbers. Including trans people is…
Chidi moved between two communities that did not quite hold him, until he stopped looking for a place to belong and started building one.
Maya spent the whole summer rehearsing a two-minute conversation with her headteacher, then burst out laughing halfway through because her hands would not stop shaking.
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