by Helen and Sammy
Being trans is not a footnote to your life. Pride does not require you to have reached a particular stage, passed any threshold, or earned the right through suffering. Visibility, …
Counselling is genuinely helpful for trans people and for people who support them, but only when it is affirmative and supportive. Good counselling helps you navigate real challeng…
Three quiet questions to help you listen to yourself.
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Carol grieved the husband she thought she had married, felt guilty for grieving at all, and spent a year working out whether she was still in love with Ruth.

Rohan dreaded the recovery weeks after top surgery, until his friend stayed for every boring, undramatic, necessary day of it.

Try she, he and they on for size. Nothing fixed, no pressure.
Try the quiz →A couple faced the unravelling of everything they thought their marriage was and chose, slowly and honestly, to rebuild it around who they actually were.

A trans woman notices her skin is different, her scent has shifted, and the mirror is finally, tentatively, starting to show her the person she has always been.

Mara spent a decade finding her way without a guide, then became one for a frightened teenager, and discovered that teaching someone else the map changed her too.
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