Children cannot consent to losing fertility and sexual function

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Children cannot consent to losing fertility and sexual function

Kellie-Jay Keen-Minshull said:

“How can you really explain something so catastrophic to an 11-year-old or 12-year-old? How can they possibly be part of the conversation about you're gonna eradicate your sexual function? You're not gonna have babies.”
Why it sounds convincing

Fertility and sexual function are major life outcomes, and the idea that a child cannot meaningfully understand losing them is intuitive. It sounds like a child protection argument rather than an ideological one.

Truth

Informed consent for young people is not a single conversation: it is a process that unfolds over months, involves the young person, their parents, and clinicians, and includes explicit discussion of fertility preservation options. The claim that sexual function is eradicated rests on an overstated premise, because the evidence from trans adults who have gone through gender-affirming treatment consistently shows that most report satisfactory sexual outcomes. There is also something worth separating out here: young people understand their own gender identity long before any clinical process begins, and that understanding does not require a child to absorb every possible future consequence in a single appointment. When this process is portrayed as inherently fraudulent, the families who hear it and step back are the ones who pay the price, watching their child go through the wrong puberty while a careful, staged clinical pathway was available to them.

What I said at the time:

“An 11-year-old is perfectly able to tell us how they perceive themselves and their gender identity... maybe people have this view that an 11-year-old goes to their mum one day and says, 'Mum, I'm not a girl, I'm a boy.' And then the next day they go to the doctor's, and then the next day they get puberty blockers. It doesn't work like that.”

Trans adolescents and their families who are told that the consent process is inherently fraudulent, discouraging them from engaging with clinical services.

I have answered this one in full: Can a child really consent to medical treatment?

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