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We cannot take a payment from you yet. That is the only thing this changes. Your account stays exactly as it is, Sammy is still here whenever you want to talk, and everything you can read on this site stays free and always will be.
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Ines asked for puberty blockers and was told to wait, and years later she learned how to grieve the voice she never chose and love the one she built.
Support a trans child by listening first and believing what they tell you, because you know your child better than anyone. Weigh other information by who it comes from, favouring…
Testosterone thickens and lengthens the vocal folds and enlarges the voice box, so the voice drops, usually starting within a few months and settling over a year or two. That…
Yes. Young people can consent to gender-affirming care in the same way they consent to any other medical treatment, by showing they understand what it will do, what happens if…
A testosterone puberty reshapes the face, growing the brow ridge, nose, jaw angles and chin, and forming an Adam's apple in the neck. Oestrogen softens skin and moves fat into the…
The most effective way to reduce the need for gender affirming surgery is to give trans young people the right puberty at the right time. Social transition, puberty blockers and…
Top surgery is gender-affirming chest surgery that removes breast tissue and reshapes the chest into a flatter, more masculine contour. Surgeons plan nipple size, nipple position…
Society makes room for small groups all the time, through step-free access, braille and sign language, because everybody matters whatever the numbers. Including trans people is…
For roughly the first two months in the womb, every one of us has the same genitals: a genital tubercle, two outer folds, two inner folds and a groove. Hormones then steer those…
There is no prescribed path once you decide to transition. Some people go in tiny steps and others change everything at once, depending on family, money and access to care. Social…
Inés was fifteen, hiding in hoodies in July and typing her feelings into a search box at 2am, until a friend asked what name she wanted to be called.
Noor spent three days dreading her hip operation, not the surgery but the name on her wristband, until a night nurse asked her one quiet question.
When trans people don't fit the system, they carry the cost: mismatched documents, forms with no right box, care pathways built for one kind of story, and waits that run for…
There is no test or label that tells you that you are trans. Many people recognise it because the gender recorded on their birth certificate does not fit who they are, and that…
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Show Sammy a photo of yourself for kind, specific feedback on hair, makeup, clothes, posture : transition mentoring at your own pace. Voice coaching is part of this too: record a short clip and Sammy will guide you through pitch, breath, resonance and pace until the voice you hear is the voice that is yours. Photos and recordings stay private to your account, and are not used to train any model.
Choose what lands in your inbox. We always send account, billing and security messages, but the rest is up to you.
Welcomes, milestones and the occasional check-in
First-week notes from Sammy, a one-month thank-you, a year-on note, and the very occasional rejoin invite if your subscription ends. No more than a handful a year.
News and editorial
When something is published or a policy review goes out, you hear about it. Off by default for now: we will only turn this on when there is something worth sending.
Stop everything non-essential
One switch. Account, billing and security emails still arrive, because we have to send those. Everything else stops.
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