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Supporting someone who is trans: what actually helps

When someone you care about comes out as trans, the most important things are believing them, using their chosen name and pronouns, and staying…

When allies default to they/them instead of learning your pronouns

Using they/them as a default for trans people without checking is not a neutral, safe choice. It replaces one assumption with another and still…

We All Have a Place in This World

It's time to really understand the beauty of diversity, the meaning of equality, and how to include everyone so that we all have a place in this…

My child just told me they're trans: what now?

When your child tells you they are trans, the most important thing you can offer is belief and love. Families who accept their trans children early…

Parenting a trans child: what parents really go through

Parenting a trans child means navigating feelings that nobody prepared you for: grief for the child you thought you knew, fear about their safety,…

JK Rowling, trans adults, and what genuine allyship looks like

JK Rowling has made repeated public statements opposing trans rights, including the legal recognition of trans adults. Genuine allyship requires more…

What parents get wrong about trans children

Most parents who struggle when a child comes out as trans are not rejecting them deliberately: they are reacting from a lifetime of poor, often…

Trans-inclusive policies don't come at the expense of women or LGB staff

Trans-inclusive workplace policies do not come at the expense of women, lesbians, or gay men. The Equality Act 2010 protects gender reassignment,…

How to find trans-competent mental health support

Trans-competent mental health support means working with a therapist or counsellor who understands gender diversity without treating your identity as…

Women's groups standing with trans people against the EHRC

Many women's organisations in the UK are standing in solidarity with trans people against the EHRC's draft statutory code and the Cass Review's…

Trans activism and solidarity: how to organise and act

Trans activism and solidarity take many forms: street-level protests and Pride marches, online petitions and letter-writing campaigns, fundraisers…

Angela Davis: gender diversity is everyone's fight

Angela Y Davis argues that refusing to acknowledge the full diversity of gender, cisgender, transgender, gender fluid, and gender non-conforming,…

Paul Mescal speaks out for trans rights ahead of London Trans+ Pride

Paul Mescal publicly declared his support for the trans community ahead of London Trans+ Pride this July, stating: "I'm incredibly proud to stand in…

Believing your child means the absolute world

You're doing a fantastic job. Just believing and supporting your child means the absolute world to them. Parental acceptance is one of the most…

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Ken Jennings shuts down right-wing spin on trans rights

When right-wing outlets tried to twist a sarcastic Bluesky joke into evidence that Ken Jennings had turned against trans people, he corrected the…

Alan Cumming speaks up for trans people, and pays the price

When Alan Cumming defended trans people and Nicola Sturgeon in a Times interview, For Women Scotland responded by calling him a 'silly little man'…

Ariana Grande launches Brighter Days Ahead Foundation for LGBTQ+ rights

Ariana Grande has launched the Brighter Days Ahead Foundation, a structured charitable body with four dedicated funds supporting LGBTQ+ rights,…

Stephanie Lynnette on Trans+ Pride and the allies we need right now

Stephanie Lynnette is a healthcare worker, content creator, and events manager for London's Trans+ Pride, named on The Independent's Pride List 2026.…

50 Ways To Take Action For Trans People This Pride Month

Ben Greene's list of 50 actions for trans allyship this Pride Month ranges from buying books by trans authors and shopping at trans-owned businesses…

Messages that brighten my whole week

Helen reflects on the messages she receives and the profound joy they bring to her work as a gender specialist.

Silent allyship isn't enough, friends matter more

When friends stay quiet about transgender issues, they risk deepening isolation for those who need their support most.

How to support someone who's come out to you

When someone shares their gender identity with you, they're showing tremendous trust—here's how to be the ally they need.

Being a trans ally starts with showing up authentically

Ashley James demonstrates what genuine allyship looks like, and it's more accessible than many people realise.

How a Malaysian mother's love gives her trans daughter refuge

In Malaysia's conservative state of Kelantan, a mother named Rozi chose love over convention, accepting her transgender daughter Hana despite intense…

Trade unions back trans workers. That is not a crisis.

The UnHerd framing treats trade unions advocating for trans workers as a threat to women's rights and a problem for the Labour government. That gets…

Seattle votes $300K for trans community as federal support collapses

Seattle City Council voted unanimously to allocate $300,000 to local LGBTQ+ organisations supporting trans residents and those fleeing anti-trans…

Another Harry Potter star rejects J.K. Rowling's trans views: 'Strongly disagree'

Bel Powley, who plays Petunia Dursley in HBO's upcoming Harry Potter series, has publicly rejected J.K. Rowling's views on trans people, saying she…

Caitlin Clark stays quiet on trans athletes. Here is what that costs.

Caitlin Clark declined to take a position on trans women in sport after her Indiana Fever teammate Sophie Cunningham sparked protests across a…

A trans ban came to rugby. Baltimore's Ferals played on.

When USA Rugby banned transgender women from women's rugby in early 2025, many teams across the country refused to comply. The Baltimore Flamingos'…

Green councillors push back on EHRC trans guidance

Green councillors in South Oxfordshire and Vale of White Horse are putting motions to their district councils to reaffirm support for trans and…

Victoria Cruz, Stonewall veteran and trans advocate, dies aged 79

Victoria Cruz, a transgender rights advocate who was present at the 1969 Stonewall uprising, has died aged 79 following a battle with liver cancer.…

Graham Platner welcomes attacks from 'fascists and bigots' over his support for trans rights

Graham Platner, the Maine Democratic Senate nominee, has secured an endorsement from a national transgender rights PAC and pledged not to abandon…

LGBTQ+ Mental Health Resource Aims to Support Conversion Therapy Survivors in Africa

Conversion therapy does not fail to work: it succeeds at causing harm. A new toolkit developed by Outright International and PsySSA gives mental…

When trans people run out of patience with Stonewall

When Stonewall's incoming chair said she had 'huge respect' for JK Rowling and that there was 'absolutely a space for her in public life', trans…

Glasgow says it has trans people's backs. Here is why that matters.

Glasgow council leader Susan Aitken has publicly challenged the EHRC's draft guidance on single-sex spaces, calling it contradictory and unworkable,…

Tamzin Outhwaite pens heartfelt tribute to trans son Flo, 18: 'May adulthood bring you peace'

When Tamzin Outhwaite celebrated her trans son Flo's 18th birthday with a public tribute full of pride and joy, she did something that reaches far…

These brands deserted Pride Month. It could cost them.

Corporate Pride was always conditional, and the brands pulling back have shown us exactly what their support was worth. A Harris Poll survey of…

Kai Schreiber, Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber: what real parental support looks like

Kai Schreiber, the 17-year-old trans daughter of Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber, is building a modelling career on the runways of Valentino, Mugler,…

The URL For Summer Games Fest, A Common Typo, Now Redirects To The Transgender Law Center

Bruce Knapik, a senior trust and safety manager at Epic Games, has owned the typo domain summergamesfest.com for six years and uses it to redirect…

NYC Mayor Zohran Mamdani Kicks Off Pride With 'Trans Rights Are Human Rights' Campaign

New York City Mayor Zohran Mamdani launched the 'Trans Rights Are Human Rights' campaign at the start of Pride Month, in partnership with the NYC…

What Becky Pepper-Jackson's mum taught me about love and courage

Heather Jackson's Mother's Day essay about her trans daughter Becky Pepper-Jackson, who is at the centre of a US Supreme Court case about transgender…

Not in our Name: New women's group voices solidarity with trans community

"Not in Our Name" is a new women's group formed in solidarity with the trans community, pushing back against the claim that opposition to trans…

Pride flags deserve respect and visibility in our communities

Helen responds to concerns about flying pride flags, emphasising their importance as symbols of inclusion and safety for LGBTQ+ communities.

East Lothian Council gender policy shows real progress and promise

Scotland's latest local authority gender guidance for schools is encouraging overall, though some important gaps remain to be addressed.

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